When I realized that I can’t plan my future I decided to sit down and think about what my priorities were. Obviously I can’t map out my entire life, but there are some things I can control. I made a “Before 30” list. I’ve always liked the idea of documenting my entire 20’s because for most people your 20s are these strange years where you have to be discipline enough to prepare yourself for the rest of your life, but you also need to take advantage of your youth and have the time of your life. I’m a very old soul so the idea of joining a sorority, partying all night and doing school work all day has never appealed to me. So I made a list of all the things that were important to me:
- Go to Europe- This one was an obvious first. The only passion I’ve ever had is my desire to travel and see as much as I possibly can. Whether it’s one week in Dublin or an entire month farming in Italy, I intend on making it there within the next 9 years of my life.
- Travel alone- I’ve always felt some need to find myself on the road. Camping alone for a few nights, flying to Portland or even just driving in whatever direction calls to me are all things I’ve dreamt of doing. No matter how big or small, I need to be alone a few times in my life.
- Graduate college- It’s become apparent I’m not going to graduate next year like I’m “supposed to” I think graduating before 30 is a pretty common and achievable goal.
- Become bilingual- I am determined to learn how to speak Spanish! I’ve taken 4 years of Spanish and I still know nothing. I’m Hispanic so I’m constantly asked if I speak it and honestly it’s just good sense since being bilingual is something almost every job prefers now.
- Run a half marathon- I’m not a runner but I think it would give me an accomplishment to work towards and help me establish better fitness.
- Love who I am-Ever since I was young I’ve struggled with myself. I can’t tell you why. It could be the fact that it’s common in our generation to feel as if we don’t live up to expectations or it could be the fact that I’m to hard on myself about most things. I’ve gotten a lot closer to loving myself and I don’t know exactly how or when I’ll be able to cross this off my list. I think I mostly put it here as a reminder.
- Love how I look- Whether it’s becoming comfortable in my own skin, or becoming fit and losing weight, I just want to be happy with the way I look. Again I don’t know exactly how or when to cross this off the list but I want to be reminded of it.
- Go to Burning man- I live in Reno and fortunately for us, Burning man happens right in our back yard. Even if its just for a day I would like to experience Burning Man.
- Find my career- My “what I want to be when I grow up” has changed about a dozen times so I would like to know what I want to do with my life. Again this ones a pretty popular and attainable goal.
- Find my “people”- Growing up of course I had friends and people I hung out with but in my adult life I have my few friends that I hang out with every once in awhile. I’ve always been obsessed with the show Friends and even though I don’t expect to be sitting in a coffee shop in Manhattan with my 5 hilarious buddies, I would like to have a group of go to friends that Cody and go out with and have over for dinner parties.
- Rent a cabin for the weekend- An extension of my previous bullet point, I would like to rent a cabin or house boat or go on a road trip with my group of friends and make the most out of my youth.
- Really Hike-My generation is full of stories like Eat, Pray, Love and Wild. We all want to find ourselves and hike the PCT. Since I don’t think I’ll be hiking from Mexico to Canada, I would like to go on a real hike where I backpack and camp and experience amazing views and wildlife.
- Weekend in Vegas- I’m 21. Doesn’t everyone need this?
- Do something that scares me- Sky dive, bungee jump, stay in a strange hostel, meet and hang out with strangers. We all need to take a risk sometimes (sorry mom)
- Camp on the beach-no explanation needed.
- Go back country camping- I love to camp but sometimes it doesn’t feel real when you have camper generators running 20 feet away from you, a picnic table and phone service. I want to camp in the middle of a field and wake up to trail mix and coffee from my French press.
- Cook an entire cookbook- Everyone needs to learn how to cook. I can follow a recipe and I need to try things I normally wouldn’t try.
- Knit a sweater- I love to knit and I think when you can knit a sweater, you’ve basically completed everything you need to complete to become a real knitter.
So there you have it. As of now I would like to think that these things will help me form who I will eventually become. I’m sure I will change my mind on some of these things, and maybe even add some things to the list. I tried my hardest to make the list kind of vague because there’s nothing worse than setting expectations and not meeting them. All that does is give me a depressing 30th birthday where I wallow and go on about everything I wanted to accomplish but never did. I intend on documenting my checking off of the things on this list and reflecting on how they effect me.